You don’t know if you want a divorce, but you do know that your marriage is not working as it is now. Over the years, you’ve become more and more unhappy, and you think a divorce might be the only solution.
Before you decide to get a divorce, there are a few different things you should think about. Here are three questions to ask yourself and to have answers for when you speak with your attorney.
1. Are you ready for a divorce?
Many people who say they want a divorce are, more or less, threatening their partners. They may say they want a divorce out of anger or because of being frustrated about something that happened. If you constantly threaten a divorce, your spouse may not take you seriously. If you’re really ready to divorce, you should be able to say that you have nothing else you can do to save your marriage and that you are willing to walk away from the relationship completely.
2. Are you making an emotional or thought-out decision?
Did you come to the conclusion during an argument? Have you pondered the thought of a divorce for months? The length of time you’ve thought about this process is key to understanding if you’re ready to move through the divorce process. If this is the first time you’ve thought of leaving your partner, it may be time to consider what happened and what you can do to fix the situation. If there is really nothing you can do, a divorce may be a good option.
3. Are you ready for the consequences of a divorce?
The consequences of a divorce aren’t just financial. You may lose friends, family members and others whom you’re familiar with and used to seeing. You will have to watch your spouse’s anger, pain or frustration, and if you have children, you’ll have to watch them struggle to adjust to the changes.
These are a few things to consider before you file for a divorce. If you are truly ready, your attorney can help you start the process.